The Game of Desire - Shannon Boodram

The Game of Desire

By Shannon Boodram

  • Release Date: 2019-07-23
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4.5
From 75 Ratings


“Forget what you think you know about dating—sexologist Shan Boodram is here to take you back to school.” - Apple Books Review

“Boodram’s brand of relationship advice...focuses on empowering single women with the tools they need to succeed in the digital dating era.” - Refinery29

Women: gain control and confidence in your love lives and find the relationship you want with this modern, life-changing guide from the certified sex educator, intimacy expert, and YouTube personality.
For younger generations, dating is a complicated mystery. Apps like Tinder and Bumble are supposed to foster connection, but instead serve as a reminder of how painfully single we are.
Certified sexologist and intimacy coach Shan Boodram—the most sought-after sex educator on the internet—is about to change all that. In this essential how-to guide, she addresses the realities of life today—when the rules of love and attraction are fluid—and teaches a group of young women how to become master daters in just sixty days.

It starts with you. Shan makes clear that love and self-discovery go hand in hand—your dating life is just as much about you as it is about other people. She challenges you to look inside yourself for what you want out of a partner, a relationship and, most important, yourself. Once you figure out what you want from dating, she shows you exactly how to get it. The Game of Desire empowers you to take the lead, learn your strengths, and identify and correct your weaknesses, all the while getting inspired watching a group of women learn how to succeed in today’s dating pool.

While many books tell women why they can’t get a date, Shan teaches you the skills and techniques necessary to take charge in today’s competitive and often confusing dating scene, providing the tools essential to attract—and retain—the partner(s) you want. From learning love languages to debunking dating myths, she helps women build knowledge and confidence.

Featuring conversational case studies, comprehensive facts about the psychology of sex and romance, and expert insight into sex culture, and written with her trademark humor and charm, The Game of Desire is a must for all of Shan’s fans and for every woman struggling to feel loved and desired.


  • Awesome

    By Lowkey_
    What I love most about this book is it's about empowering the participants (and reader) with tools to build their confidence in dating instead of prioritizing how to impress the person they're attracted to. Learning to enhance the person that you already are is WAY more valuable in building relationships than being a social chameleon. We can sometimes forget that our affection and time are just as precious as our love interests' so the tools on how to practice being more intentional with who we choose are helpful. The book gave the reader a walkthrough and the reasoning for each technique the group tried. Many of the techniques can be used outside of romantic relationships. The experiments were interesting, bold, and fun to read (*in my Randy Jackson voice* But the vagina juice one is a no for me dog). I enjoyed reading about the growth of each person and felt appreciative that they allowed Shan to share their experiences with us. I also loved how honest Shan was about her growth from working with the group. By the end of the book, I was proud of each person (I was literally smiling like they could see me). Shan seemed to do a great job being attentive to the needs of the group while also emboldening them to push past their comfort zone. I've bookmarked some parts to practice for myself. LOL this'll be interesting.
  • Amazing!!!

    By Yahtru1
    I am so proud of Shan. This book is everything I didn’t know I needed. I’m not only learning about being Desirable to men. But I’m also learning to be Desirable to myself too. The Game of Desire helps you on so many levels. It’s a must read. Thank Me Later future readers😊.
  • Best Dating Book

    By tbizzle22
    I was hooked from the introduction on. I pre-ordered this book and it did not disappoint. If you feel like your stuck in a dating rut or new to dating, this book is for you! Shan has you expand your mind and look at yourself inwards. Also great recommendations for other dating/self help books. Thank you Shan! Buying all my friends copies!😁
  • Really Helpful

    By Tina Ray1
    This was able to help me get through my journey of dating. I am now able to walk with confidence and in self-love, especially knowing that I can be love and I deserve it.
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