Attached - Amir Levine & Rachel Heller


By Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

  • Release Date: 2010-12-30
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4.5
From 507 Ratings


We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."

In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.


  • It all makes sense now

    By foreverst0ked
    As a man who is 34 and has been in several serious relationships that were great, but also had their hardships this book has given me insight into what was really going on. Moving forward with fresh eyes now and I would like to thank everyone involved with the book for all the knowledge and work that and went into the making of it.
  • Insane.

    By Just wanna play!
    I think it’s dumb that you can’t sample the book? The first couple of chapters are most important.
  • Useful for finding some truth within the individual

    By TreyV Book
    Many things that I’ve learned about how I perceive love and some ways to combatant the unnecessary game playing that is implicit within my romantic relationships.
  • Simply Amazing

    By derekmshaw
    This book was instrumental in healing from my divorce and helped put me on a new path for my life. Whether you are in a relationship or experiencing the ending of one, this book will help you understand yourself and your partner.
  • Spot-on

    By JTS131
    Reading this was like reading about my own life. It’s good to have a little background information about attachment psychology, but the authors do a great job of providing clear and realistic examples. Eye-opening and necessary to fix problematic relationship behavior and understand yourself more deeply.
  • Awesome book

    By vegasboyyoshi
    Great book to know know what you’re.
  • Good book to learn effective communication

    By 3carnivores
    It is a good book to learn yourself and improve the communication styles. It is focused on that topics and somewhat over simplified other complicating factors. It is important for the readers to know the limitation and wisely apply themselves.
  • Attached

    By Hopeflul
    This book made me realize why I have such a hard time being in a relationship. I'm the rare anxious/avoidant attachment style. It's impossible to to want someone in my life at the same time not wanting to feel smothered by too much attention. I'm working with a therapist who is a specialist in trauma and uses the Internal Family Systems therapy.
  • Eye opening

    By hopeafin
    Currently nursing a broken heart and sorting through all kinds of emotions. A friend recommended that I read this book to better understand myself and also my ex. It was a great read and forced me to hold a mirror to myself. Also made me hopeful that in the future, I can not only work on myself in a relationship but I can pick a partner and weed out incompatible ones more quickly.
  • Very Eye Opening

    By Slimm210
    I very much enjoyed this book and learned so much about myself and the significance of staying true to yourself. A lot of these relationship books can make you feel like there's something wrong with you and most issues in your romantic relationships are your fault. Looking forward to applying what I've learned and meeting the right person.